Sunday, October 30, 2005

to stay or not

what drives people to leave?

my brother has just decided he wants to leave. and this is despite the fact that his career in on the upswing. he is financially secure. in just two years, recognition from peers in the medical profession has propelled his career even to greater heights. his family is here. he enjoys the comforts of home. and yet he is leaving next month. maybe with a feeling of hopelessness and threat of insecurity in a country which has very little to offer compared to others. this place is not good enough for him. and no one can blame him, or the millions of others before him.

the exodus of talented people leaving our country is enough to make one think of leaving. to stay or not to stay. we dwelled on this intermittently for the past seven years since we had returned from our training abroad. a difficult decision to make until a pastor friend suggested that we study past and present events in our lives. "certainly god is telling you something, his hand has been leading you somewhere."

the lure of big money being doctors abroad is great, but circumstances have brought us back here. there is a reason why my husband became an ocular oncologist. but financial compensation is definitely not one of them as most of his patients who have eye tumor are poor. it was only much later that we realized he became one because the service had to be brought here, where it is needed most. because we still need to make a decent living out of our profession, the way was paved for both of us to get into the big hospitals without much difficulty, to earn enough and be able to serve co-filipinos, which is truly gratifying. we envy the progress of other countries. but love the places we visit where we appreciate the resiliency, strength, and warmth of the people in our own. there are more opportunities for our children abroad. but raising our children here have helped emphasize value-formation and family responsiveness. seeing them bond with extended family and bridge the gap across generations has brought not only joy to us, but also unparalelled fulfillment to our parents. we treasured our independence living abroad. but here delight in the opportunity to be able to care for our parents and elderly relatives as they age.

there is a reason why we are what we are and where we are today. god has indeed told us to stay put. he has made it easy for us to stay, and difficult for us to leave. he has made us realize what is essential in our lives. what we want to achieve, and what we are prepared to give up. his hand has led us here. he is almost shouting it out for us to hear. and finally we hear him loud and clear.


Blogger mama_aly said...

Amen! The greater sacrifice is that of those who, like us can leave but choose to stay.

Monday, 31 October, 2005  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You an Gary are indeed an inspiration. Maybe, having a mini business together is also a calling for our families to bond more. For our children to do the same ... and for us to take care of our parents.

Freddie Placino

Monday, 31 October, 2005  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Reading your sharing is another eye-opener for me.

I had the opportunity to follow my husband in Singpore for a few days because he had his training there. It has been 8 years since I last visited it. Lots of changes and developments since then. I felt sad for our country...boarding the plane going back home, I told myself...sino pa ang magmamahal sa Pilipinas kundi tayong mga Pilipino.

Since then, I stopped complaining about the traffic, the garbage everywhere...but in my own little way, I will contribute to this country which I call home.

Tuesday, 01 November, 2005  
Blogger harveychua0208 said...

Your post is very inspiring, and many of your reasons for staying truly resonate with us. Two of my daughters are away, but they do not intend to be away forever. The same way that you left for training, they're there for the experience of living on their own for a short while, and to further their knowledge so they can bring it back and have something to share with their countrymen.

Wednesday, 18 April, 2007  
Anonymous Margarita said...

I am from UPCM Class 2005. My husband on MBA. I am applying for residency next year. Right now, it has become very clear for us to pursue our career goals here. I would have dreams of guilt about leaving my country. But I realize the story has just begun. And the only thing to do is to keep my goals in check with God's will. Thank you SO MUCH for sharing this.

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